Steve from England

In a recent course I was taught the importance of saying NO! The thing is, it only works if I say no to people that can afford to have me say no to them. So, I say yes and I make adjustments to my life to compensate for what I have given away either in time, financially or emotionally. The best reward for what I do is to have peeps say I am appreciated, to be there when I am in need and just go that extra mile now and then even though it may mean they go without something to do so. It hardly ever happens of course, being a good guy sometimes just sucks. I spent a lot this year on gifts confident I had the money. What I didn’t know was that I was about to get my car clobbered and that a fault would develop with the engine and together they would cost me £400 I didn’t have. For years I have run a group for gay dads, given up a lot of time and helped loads of guys out behind the scenes but what thanks do I get? Nope, someone that very easily opens his house once e

In a recent course I was taught the importance of saying NO! The thing is, it only works if I say no to people that can afford to have me say no to them. So, I say yes and I make adjustments to my life to compensate for what I have given away either in time, financially or emotionally. The best reward for what I do is to have peeps say I am appreciated, to be there when I am in need and just go that extra mile now and then even though it may mean they go without something to do so. It hardly ever happens of course, being a good guy sometimes just sucks. I spent a lot this year on gifts confident I had the money. What I didn’t know was that I was about to get my car clobbered and that a fault would develop with the engine and together they would cost me £400 I didn’t have. For years I have run a group for gay dads, given up a lot of time and helped loads of guys out behind the scenes but what thanks do I get? Nope, someone that very easily opens his house once e

I can’t mention the thrilling subject of DVD’s in the title without letting everyone on the planet, nay, in the known universe know what I am on about … bugger it, too much of a lead in there and now I don’t have anything to match up to the introduction. I backed some stuff up on DVD, that’s as exciting as it gets. Robin’s has gone off to the USA , he should be there by now about to board the plane for the final leg of his journey, boy I wish I was there. I was so certain at the start of the year I was going and had I not done that holiday with Martyn I’d probably have committed myself to it as well but afterwards the figures just didn’t add up. One thing I hate doing is building myself up for something, especially a holiday, and then having to come down again. Our plan to go in 2009 is bold, if I am honest I can’t see it happening, it’s a pipe dream. Whilst I don’t know what, I do know that something significant is going to happen between now and then, something th

I can’t mention the thrilling subject of DVD’s in the title without letting everyone on the planet, nay, in the known universe know what I am on about … bugger it, too much of a lead in there and now I don’t have anything to match up to the introduction. I backed some stuff up on DVD, that’s as exciting as it gets. Robin’s has gone off to the USA , he should be there by now about to board the plane for the final leg of his journey, boy I wish I was there. I was so certain at the start of the year I was going and had I not done that holiday with Martyn I’d probably have committed myself to it as well but afterwards the figures just didn’t add up. One thing I hate doing is building myself up for something, especially a holiday, and then having to come down again. Our plan to go in 2009 is bold, if I am honest I can’t see it happening, it’s a pipe dream. Whilst I don’t know what, I do know that something significant is going to happen between now and then, something th